Can Emotional Intelligence Be Taught? Yes, and it should shape all our interactions with kids.

Can Emotional Intelligence Be Taught? Yes, and it should shape all our interactions with kids.

I worked as a counselor for twelve years and an educator for ten. I cannot stress how important this concept is. You see the glaring absence of these skill in college students — unable to learn because they have no way to manage their personal lives. Some people are naturally empathetic. Others are not. Empathy can be beaten out of a child. Or it can be nurtured.

My big fear (as referenced in the article) is two-fold. One — that these concepts will be untethered from science and become pop psychology, thus easily dismissed. Two — that in a rush to integrate these concepts, we embrace formulaic systems taught by adults who themselves may have a profound lack of emotional intelligence. Both of these concerns can be easily addressed by training and funding additional research.

It is my sincere belief that increasing emotional intelligence in our species is key to our survival. It will also determine the quality of the lives we lead. Emotional intelligence is one of the most powerful weapons we have. We should be using it…in all situations, with all people, all of the time. It is best learned organically, but intentionally. You can teach others self-reflection. It is unrelated to “self-esteem” (everyone gets a trophy) and a balm against narcissism.

Growing emotional intelligence is our most sacred calling to those of us who love our species. There is nothing more noble.

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About Kristen Chapman Gibbons

Loosely connected facts: Storyteller. Curator of a Better Internet. Lifelong Politico. Social Media Maven. Creativity and Empathy Evangelist. Performer. Creator of Content Worth Sharing. Digital Strategist. Former Social Worker. Decade teaching in Higher Ed. Master's Degree in Theology. Married to an Irishman. 3 darling kiddos. Preacher's kid. Appalachian. Music maker. Music devour-er. ENTP. Bohemian. Geeky. Obsessed with thrift stores and all things vintage. Lover of species.

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